Reflections on the 1st Anniversary of my Retirement

Time flies. It was one year ago this Sunday that I preached my final sermon as a pastor and said farewell to our wonderful congregation. We turned the page to a new chapter in our lives.

While I doubt that I will ever quit being a pastor at heart, Iā€™ve begun to learn to go to church and sit in a pew. Iā€™ve been learning what it means to go to church and have no responsibility other than to worship. Iā€™d almost forgotten what that was like. For me church attendance was filled with responsibilities. I gave my all on Sundays and came home weary and, quite often satisfied. These days I come home less weary and less satisfied. Going to church no longer has ā€œworkā€ associated with it but it doesnā€™t carry with it the satisfaction only a pastor enjoys after an especially blessed Sunday morning.

Of course, Jackie and I didnā€™t retire in a normal way. The day after my last Sunday we headed out on a great adventure, traveling the country in our RV. Itā€™s been a great year and we hope it has been the first of what will be many.

During the past year I stopped carrying an ink pen in my pocket. That meant I could shop for shirts without pockets for the first time in years. It took several months, but I finally stopped wearing a watch. I have a sun tan instead of a white band around my wrist! During the year Jackie and my mornings have morphed into a leisurely time punctuated by a long coffee break about 10:00 each day. Then, many evenings have been spent sitting outside watching the sky; counting the satellites that glide overhead. Weā€™ve even seen a good number of shooting stars. Weā€™re enjoying each otherā€™s company in ways that were almost forgotten.

We arenā€™t quite there yet but weā€™re rediscovering something we havenā€™t experienced since childhood: the joy of doing nothing. Donā€™t get me wrong: we do a lot. Weā€™ve gone sightseeing, taken hikes, and visited museums and National Parks. However, mixed in now, are days of reading or just fooling with the computer. There are times to just sit and watch the world go by; or blow an evening watching TV. Over the winter, when it was unusually old outside, we watched the entire Star Wars series, from beginning to end, every night for six nights in a row. No meetings to attend, no need to bundle up and go out and fight the weather or the traffic ā€“ just time to do what we wanted to do, which was, at that particular moment: nothing.

Weā€™ve missed having family close by. Most people retire and spend more time with loved ones. We, in our own crazy way, retired and immediately traveled far from them. That absent time, though, was somewhat balanced out by the months when we were close by and available to them as never before.

So, here I am, one year into retirement. When anyone asks me how Iā€™m enjoying retirement I generally respond with the quip that had I known it was this much fun, I would have done it 30 years ago. Thereā€™s no small amount of truth to it.

Communion

communionI grew up in a very ā€œlow churchā€ worship environment.Ā  Our Nazarene Manual directed us to receive the Lordā€™s Supper at least once a quarter and, apparently, we saw that as a maximum rather than minimum frequency.Ā Ā  As a young pastor I followed that same schedule but over time I moved to a monthly observance, trying to find a middle way between seeing the sacrament as the featured act of worship at one extreme, and as a mandated add-on at the other extreme.

While I donā€™t think there is a right or wrong approach in how most churches observe the sacrament I do think that the freedom to vary the emphasis and approach and even mechanics of observing it can be an advantage for less liturgical churches. Ā Ā Whether or not you agree with me here, I hope youā€™ll find some of these thoughts helpful.

Communion is more of a celebration than anything else.Ā  We donā€™t believe Jesus dies again each time we receive communion and it isnā€™t only about shed blood and broken body.Ā Ā  Mainly, weā€™re celebrating the amazing love the Lord has for us.Ā Ā  Jesus willingly went to the cross because ā€œGod so loved the world.ā€Ā  There, on that old rugged cross, he conquered sin and death.Ā  His victory has become mine.Ā  We donā€™t celebrate the brokenness and bleeding but we do celebrate the reason for it and what it has accomplished in and for us. Ā ā€œWe come today to celebrate the greatest act of love, the most beneficial sacrifice ever accomplishedā€¦.ā€

Communion is the perfect platform for inviting people to come to Jesus. Ā As a young person I somehow had the idea that the Lordā€™s Supper could be hazardous to oneā€™s health.Ā  We were to examine ourselves and if we had experienced any spiritual failure we might be wise to skip communion that quarter.Ā  Over time I began to understand that, while it was possible to receive communion in an unworthy manner (that is, without showing proper reverence) that, honestly, no one is worthy of receiving these emblems of the Lordā€™s body and blood.Ā  Had we been worthy, he would have never had to go to the cross in the first place.Ā  With that in mind, I began to see the sacrament as an invitation to Christ.Ā  As I examine my heart and realize that there are spiritual failures Iā€™m not disqualified from the bread and wine.Ā  Rather, Iā€™m being given an opportunity to avail myself of the mercy and grace of the Lord in a fresh way. Ā If I come, viewing my receiving communion as a substitute for repentance and faith Iā€™m moving into the ā€œunworthyā€ territory.Ā  If I come seeking forgiveness and restoration, though, I find life in that sacrament.Ā  ā€œThe Bible says weā€™re to examine ourselves before receiving communion.Ā  So letā€™s do that.Ā  If, as you consider your relationship with the Lord and find that things arenā€™t what they ought to be, that doesnā€™t mean you canā€™t receive communion today.Ā  Instead, this is an opportunity to make things right with the Lord.Ā  As you receive the bread and wine, receive Jesus into your life all over again.ā€

Communion is a great way to introduce your child to Jesus.Ā  Honestly, I think our liturgical friends with their emphasis on ā€œfirst communionā€ have a great approach.Ā  However, that doesnā€™t mean that there arenā€™t advantages to a less structured, low church approach.Ā  As a pastor I allowed parents to bring their children forward to receive communion provided the parent agreed to have a discussion with that child about allowing Jesus to be their Lord and Savior before the day was over.Ā  Symbols are powerful and children can grasp spiritual realities earlier than we might think.Ā  I let parents decide if their children are ā€œthereā€ yet.Ā  ā€œParents, Iā€™ll let you decide when your children are ready to receive communion.Ā  If you do allow your child to come today, I ask this of you: letā€™s agree that before this day is over you will sit down with your child and talk about the meaning of communion and how it is that a person places their faith in Jesus.ā€

Communion ought to be the focus of at least one service a year.Ā  Baptism has been called the ā€œentry sacramentā€ to our life in Christ.Ā  Communion is the ā€œcontinuing sacrament.ā€Ā  One Sunday a year the church service should be all about the Lordā€™s Supper (World Communion Sunday is the first Sunday of October).Ā Ā  Sing songs about it, read the appropriate scriptures, and preach a sermon that reminds us why we celebrate communion.Ā  Talk about our unity with believers across the ages and in the various traditions of Christianity.Ā  Talk about Godā€™s love for us and Christā€™s willingness to die for us.Ā  Remind people of its connection to the Marriage Supper of the Lamb.Ā  Tell them why the Lordā€™s Supper is called a ā€œmeans of grace.ā€Ā  Then, invite people to the table of the Lord.Ā  Pastor, on this Sunday, you do all the serving, taking the role of Jesus, himself.Ā  ā€œToday is World Communion Sunday and weā€™re going to join Christians of many traditions around the world in receiving communion.Ā  Before we do that though, letā€™s think about the meaning and purpose of this sacrament of the Church.ā€

Preparing the church for a pastoral sabbatical

The value of a pastor taking a sabbatical leave after a number of years of service to a local congregation is gaining more and more recognition.Ā  In this post Iā€™m not going to attempt to make a case for sabbatical leave, but am going to talk about how a church can prepare for the pastorā€™s absence for an extended amount of time.Ā  This subject needs careful consideration and itā€™s important for the pastor as well as for the congregation.Ā  Outsiders might think that all the pastor does is preach a sermon every Sunday morning, but as they say, thatā€™s just the tip of the iceberg.

Generally speaking, the pastor not only does ā€œspiritual thingsā€ like making hospital visits and carrying a burden of prayer for the church family but also functions as a sort of CEO who makes constant on-the-fly decisions concerning how the church calendar is organized, what is emphasized in the church announcements, and what ā€œextraā€ features are included in a given Sundayā€™s order of worship.

If the pastor just walks away, off to enjoy a monthā€™s long sabbatical a power void will be created in the church.Ā  Well-meaning people will sense that void and step into fill it and some, who maybe arenā€™t so well-meaning will see it as an opportunity to reshape the church as they see fit.Ā  The pastor who has happily ridden off into the sunset may return to find such a mess that all the relaxation of the sabbatical will drain away as they have to deal with the destruction that the power void has created.

With all that in mind, a wise pastor and church leadership will firmly address leadership issues before the pastor leaves town.Ā  Here are some suggestions:

  1. Donā€™t just engage a sabbatical interim pastor and toss it all in their lap.Ā  There are levels of trust and responsibility that an outsider, or even an insider lacking sufficient experience, canā€™t address.Ā  Make a list of exactly what that person will do: preaching, administering the sacraments, praying the pastoral prayer.Ā  The interim will basically do the ā€œtip of the icebergā€ stuff that outsiders think is the only thing the pastor does.
  2. List all the other things the pastor normally does in a week and assign each portion of that to a different lay leader.Ā  Who will initiate the church prayer chain?Ā  Who will visit the sick in the hospital?Ā Ā  Fill every position with a willing layperson.
  3. List all the organizational responsibilities of the pastor and assign them.Ā  Different churches have different organizational flows, but if the pastor signs off on the music, what goes into the church bulletin, etc. name the person who is going to have that authority.
  4. Name a person who will serve as ā€œservice platform managerā€ ā€“ they will do the things in the service that the pastor normally does: do the call to worship, offer the benediction, call for the ushers, welcome visitors, etc.
  5. Commit to the current structure of the church during the sabbatical.Ā  There will be no changes to the order of worship, the makeup of the praise team, or the leadership of the church.Ā  The sabbatical will not be the time when things will be changed because someone with a big voice insists that the offering should be taken differently or the announcements should be done at a different time in the service.
  6. Having prepared for all the expected things, prepare for the unexpected.Ā  Create a ā€œpastoral committeeā€ of three trusted lay leaders in the church.Ā  Grant them ā€œpastoral authorityā€ in the church.Ā  When a decision has to be made that would normally be made by the pastor, refer it to the committee ā€“ any two of the three can decide.Ā  Some churches think that they will just give the interim pastor that authority, but thatā€™s a mistake.Ā  That person wonā€™t have the knowledge of people and past practices of the church to make decisions as the pastor.Ā  If the church names just one lay person their decisions will be subject to doubt and disagreement. Ā A committee of three will carry a sense of authority and fairness.

All of the above can be done in just one board meeting if the pastor has done the necessary homework to list all that they do in a given week.Ā  Having made the appointments, publish them in the church bulletin prior to and then during the duration of the sabbatical.Ā  It will remind the congregation that the church isnā€™t adrift while the pastor is away.Ā  It will remind those who have an agenda of their own that there is already an agenda in place.Ā  Not only that, but developing lay leaders is a Biblical model for the church.Ā  The returning pastor might just find that some of the things that have been occupying his or her time really was never his or her job in the first place!

 

Pastor’s day off and other pastor/time issues

I have four things to say to pastors about “days off” and how, in general, a pastor spends his or her time.

First, unless you ditch the cell phone and head for parts unknown there’s no literal day “off.” Rather, they’re just days “on call.” In this case, it’s no different for pastors than it is for many other professionals and business people. Rather, it’s just the way it is.

Second, you’re in this for the long haul. The dedicated, burning-the-candle-at-both-ends kind of pastor will get lots of applause from some in the congregation and maybe will even be “honored” by being asked to take on yet more responsibilities at the community, district, or denominational level. It’s important to remember that some of these good people will applaud you right into the grave. If your ministry is going to last a lifetime, it needs to be run at a jog rather than at a sprint.

Third, life is short and there’s no rewind button. Your kids (and then grandkids) grow up quickly. Your relationship with your loved ones needs attention. Also, while a quiet lifestyle is practically unheard of these days, for a person seeking God’s heart it’s vitally important. A less intense lifestyle may produce a spiritual depth that will flow in natural ways into your ministry…accomplishing more genuine ministry to others than a frantic run on some church schedule treadmill seven days a week.

Fourth, beware of letting others set your schedule. One group thinks you need to attend every church event (years ago the ladies at the womens meeting actually asked Jackie if I was coming – after all the previous pastor had always stuck his head in the door for their meetings – she laughed and said they had better not expect me). A certain age group would be happy if you took on the role specifically given to the laypeople of the church and spent a lot of time ministering to the “widows.” Others will make you their father confessor and lock you into a brutal counseling session schedule. If you like that stuff, okay, maybe. However, the pastor needs to have a strong sense of self identity and not let others control the schedule. (By the way, I don’t think the pastor should give a detailed time report to the board for just that reason – you’ll never win because they all think they know what you’re supposed to do with your time.)

As I’ve already mentioned, I don’t think the pastor’s situation is greatly different than that of many other professionals and business owners. I guess a case could be made that since we’re dealing with people at a spiritual level and since we believe eternity is, indeed, forever, that there’s a bit more pressure, but I’m not sure that’s actually in play at a practical level.

Take some time off…not just for vacation time, or even a day or two a week “off,” but every day. Don’t be ashamed or apologetic. Go toss the ball around with your kids. You and your spouse go for a long no-church-business-discussed walk. Watch some TV or read a nothing-to-do-with-church book. Sit around thinking about the things of God, not for a sermon, but just so you’ll understand such things better. Ā  In the long run, you’ll likely do more for the Kingdom that way.

A pastor appreciating fine lay people

A major project at our church has been the replacing of old, inadequate concrete sidewalks with brick paving. It is actually a bigger project than just sidewalks, as we have a very nice patio type covering in the front of the church, and the brick paving has been put down underneath that awning, creating some very usable space for outdoor activities: everything from overflow space at church dinners to VBS activities to church BBQ’s. We’re even thinking of having some outdoor Sunday evening services.

Actually, this blog entry isn’t as much about that as it is about the wonderful folks I pastor. We have had a number of people who gave up their Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving and then the following Friday and Saturday again this week to labor on this project. As a pastor, I must say that this is about as encouraging a thing as can be imagined. There’s a lot of grumbling these days about “lack of commitment” by church people. I’m seeing none of it. These good folks financially support the church and go above and beyond the call of duty in doing it. Then, they give up their days off and vacation days to come and work sun up to sun down to make the church building into a nicer place to worship. I am pleased with and humbled by such generosity.

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Reverend, pastor, preacher, father?

I have always encouraged people to call me “pastor.” I don’t like “preacher” because that only describes one aspect of my ministry and because it is often used in a negative way (“don’t preach at me”).

“Pastor” better describes what I do, and almost always has a positive feeling — more akin to being a servant or shepherd.

I have never liked “Reverend” and avoid it as much as possible. However, I accept the title as one of respect and usually let it pass until I have a chance to gently move the the title over to “pastor.”

However, I don’t think Jesus is speaking literally in Matthew 23. In that passage he not only mentions “Father” but also says the same thing about “rabbi” and “teacher.” I find it interesting that any church that has “Biblical” grounds for not calling their minister “Father,” or “Reverend” almost always has several people who are named “Teacher.” Apparently, they are kind of selective in what terms to take literally and which ones to take figuratively.

From the context of Matthew 23, Jesus is talking about having a love of titles and position. Jesus says that instead of seeking such things we are to be called “servants.” “The greatest among you will be your servant.”

Clearly, the Apostle Paul didn’t take Jesus’ words literally. He wrote to the church at Corinth: I am not writing this to shame you, but to warn you, as my dear children. Even though you have ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel. (I Cor. 4:14-15 )

Note that Paul gives himself the title “Father” in this Scripture.

So…I don’t like the title “Reverend” but prefer “Pastor” — not because I think Jesus was forbidding the title, but because he was encouraging his followers to seek servant status in their relationships with others.